Being in a serious relationship with someone often means being able to share everything with your partner. From your dreams and ambitions to rent and chores, as a young couple you’re splitting everything down the middle and making the best efforts to work as a team. But soon enough you’re ready to take the next step, when that time comes are you willing to “go Dutch?”

Never mind the 3 months-worth of salary rule, these days many couples are deciding to shuck tradition and split the cost of the engagement ring. Many couples consider this to be a simple decision based on the fact that their finances are either already tied or will soon be tied. Professional matchmaker Samantha Daniels even told Today.com “I think it makes for a better connection between the two people.” And yet, this does take away from the moment of surprise, and all but extinguishes the shock and awe moment many have come to appreciate about proposals. How many hours have you spent tearing up on HowHeAsked.com?

According to polls and comment sections bursting at the seams on The Knot, Huffington Post Weddings and In Style Magazine, women and men are sharing convicted opinions on both sides of the spectrum. It seems like the question is still up for debate? Leave us a comment and tell us what you think?

For more on “Going Dutch”: HuffPost Weddings, The Knot and InStyle.